These measures were extended from Keck and Samp’s (2007) single-item measures of four conflict goals and were used in this paper. I typically use a 6-point Likert scale (Strongly disagree … Strongly agree) with these statements. The goals are instrumental (task) goal, relational goal, self identity goal, and partner identity goal. Original items from Keck and Samp are highlighted. Note that “partner” was replaced with “the other person” as the sample recalled conflict in different relationship types.
In the most recent argument episode, it was important for me to…
Instrumental Goal
Convince the other person of my position
Achieve the outcome I wanted
Gain the upper hand in the argument
Have my point of view validated
Win the argument
Prove that I was right
Defend my own stance
Self Identity Goal
Restore or maintain my sense of self
Be true to myself and my values
Preserve my integrity
Protect my identity
Stay consistent with who I am
Behave as my usual self
Resist challenges to my character
Partner Identity Goal
Support the other person
Protect the other person’s feelings
Preserve the other person’s identity
Show my empathy and care
Relational Goal
Maintain our relationship
Understand each other
Stay connected with each other
Minimize damage to our relationship
